The Sex Education You Should Have Been Taught
Undo 60 years of society-wrecking errors in just one book
First, the problem:
Birth control.Or rather, how we responded to the advent of reliable birth control.We decoupled sex from babies but can't decouple sex from bonding.
Sex leads to babies
Everybody knows this. Everybody acts like they know this.The rules around everything from marriage to employment were largely ordered around this fact. But with reliable birth control, sex doesn't have to lead to babies.When that sex/babies link was severed, we threw out all of the rules built on that foundation. We reevaluated the purpose of sex and marriage; even the fundamental differences between men and women.That’s all well and good to reconsider. But here’s the problem:There was always more.
Sex also leads to bonding
The same act that leads to babies also causes the parents of that baby to love each other.Isn't that marvelous?We never had to wrestle with this fact before reliable birth control.If you don’t have sex in circumstances where you don’t want babies, you naturally avoid the hormonal pair bonding in circumstances where you don't want to bond.But not any more. Now you can prevent the babies and have sex with someone you don't love.
Solving this problem
You know something is wrong with the way things are.But if you've looked for alternatives, you've probably run into these bad answers:
Wrong Solution #1
Take it further. "Independent women" and MGTOWs.Embrace the freedom from biology and tradition. Forgo a loving, substantial relationship and either enjoy complete independence, or enjoy using the other sex for sexual gratification and nothing else.Sure it’s lonely, but at least you get to be in control!
Wrong Solution #2
Go backward.Things worked in the “Leave It To Beaver” Era. Go back to that and you can have the life we had then. The tradwife phenomenon.That's certainly an option. But this demands that you forego the benefits of these changes. And it’s going to be really hard to fit in with an uncooperative society.
A better way forward
With Bathwater Out with the Babies, you’re going to see a third way.You can undo our missteps without missing out on the gains.
People are ordered toward marriage.People are ordered toward monogamy.And they are ordered as men and women, with different strengths.
We have forgotten these simple facts and so many of our problems are downstream of this ignorance.
We have sex when we shouldn’t have it and not enough when we should.We put off marriage, in spite of its many benefits, until children.We treat boys as rowdy girls and girls as though they are future men.We’ve failed to establish proper boundaries after we lost pregnancy as a source of restraint.
Discovering proper boundaries fixes our problems.
What is in this book
Bathwater out with the Babies is broken up into four parts.The first describes how humans are biologically ordered and how American culture was structured to accommodate normal fertility.The second part fills in the missing answers to the questions:What is sex?What is marriage?What are the differences between the sexes, now that we have complete control over fertility?In the third part, I prescribe what to do with this information: how to be married, how to get married, and how to prepare for marriage.I also address society’s role in all of this: why it won’t save you and why you’re probably going to have to do these things yourself.
What matters
Helping us form happy, stable marriages is the most important thing societies do for their people and ours is failing miserably.This book will accomplish what society should have done for you.
Peter Ozug was raised in the land divorce forgot.
He grew up in the nineties, but in a town that was still in the sixties, as far as marriage and family were concerned.Getting married as soon as practical and staying married forever was not just the default. It was the only conceivable option.And so, as soon as he could, he found a woman and got married.Then, as an adult, he became aware of “emergent adulthood.” Why were people putting off such an obvious good as happy marriage?It seemed obvious to him that these people were leaving a lot of great things on the table. But their decisions were just as obvious to them.Bathwater out with the Babies is his polite and thorough correction to the mistakes those people (and sometimes he) were making.
Published by Lyra Press 2026